I am so very grateful for Gordon B. Hinckley's testimony and example. In his talk he said: "In terms of physical abuse, I have never accepted the principle of “spare the rod and spoil the child.” I will be forever grateful for a father who never laid a hand in anger upon his children. Somehow he had the wonderful talent to let them know what was expected of them and to give them encouragement in achieving it. I am persuaded that violent fathers produce violent sons. I am satisfied that such punishment in most instances does more damage than good. Children don’t need beating. They need love and encouragement. They need fathers to whom they can look with respect rather than fear. Above all, they need example." The answer to raising and teaching the children that God places into our care is LOVE. We must remember they are His children and we will be held accountable for the discharge of our duties as parents. Abuse of any kind is NOT okay. In The Family: A Proclamation to the World we read, "Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations."
A fallen man once spoke to me of laws and rights of men, Of punishments that can be given again and again. He spoke and my heart ached as he described what he could do, To teach a child to bend his will to what he thought was true. Casually he demonstrated with descriptions cruel and unkind, What was allowed in legal terms to force a human mind. As he spoke I pondered, then uttered these words to him, No force should be used upon any, to do so is a sin. Gently our Savior gathered and sought to persuade the sons of man, He didn’t cruelly drag them to the place where they should stand. Each day he taught with kindness, patience and love, He didn’t bark and yell at men, then force them with a shove. I haven’t hurt anyone he said with doubt in his voice, I answered force and cruelty have been your way, your choice. You’ve hurt one of His children which He commanded never to do. He asked you to protect and lift, to be worthy faithful and true. You’re following a fallen world and the laws that define its state, God asks you to prepare for more, to open heaven’s gate. The man stammered and looked down and then his eyes met mine again, I said, you can have this fallen world or live in a better with Him. You cannot hurt another and think you will have place, Today is the day to repent and change, to seek your Saviors grace. What can be done and should be done are two different things, Remember I said lovingly, the consequence they bring.
Written by Michelene Glasson
Child Abuse~Concrete Angel
He who would hurt one of my little ones, has placed a weight of condemnation round his neck, It pulls him to the ocean floor to take his final breath. Then he will be delivered to the justice of his God, Who will repay with vengeance to him who mocked his law. There will be weeping and wailing, and gnashing of teeth, The flame of God's displeasure will bring him no relief. The innocent who suffered will be healed by the Masters loving hand, In a place of love and beauty forever they will stand. Given to new families who honor them with care, Who hold them with thanksgiving and kindness always share.