Judging Others? Stop It!

The Unseen Light

Oh the shallow judgment of men, they cast away a gentle soul,
They reach out and embrace the pretense, the fake and blighted show.
How my Father can they not see what burns before their eyes?`
A testimony, a heart of kindness, that shown like the sun in the sky.
They preferred a Potemkin village with colors bold and bright,
Not to gaze on a soul and search for what is truly right.
I laid my soul open for each man to see,
Yet seeing but not seeing, they cried you’re not good enough for me.
I loved with all the love I had, and shared the light within,
Yet they dismissed the light I held, and chose the darkness in him.
My mouth opened often, and I shared my inner self,
Yet it was to them as silence or as a book upon a shelf;
Unopened, unappreciated yet it was always there,
You had but to go and read it and enjoy what the story would share.
Oh, that they had seen the daughter you have shaped and lead with care,
A gentle soul that burns with the spirit, that wants to lift and cheer.
Now I am gone, and the light I hold is no longer before their eyes,
Perhaps as I walk toward another my light will please and guide.
I pray to shine with humble light and warm the hungry soul,
I pray to love as you have loved and help others find their glow.
May I always judge my brothers with remembrance of the past,
May I never wound another, or despise the light they have.
I pray to embrace and cherish the goodness that lives within each man,
To live with kindness and forgiveness, and with my Savior stand!

Written by Michelene Glasson

Pride and Prejudice has always been one of my favorite movies! I have to say that the only version we watch is the 6 hour version produced by A&E.

One of my all-time favorite moments is this classic story is when Elizabeth begins to see herself clearly, and as she sees herself clearly she begins to see others more clearly as well. In her moment of self-discovery she says, “How despicably I have acted! I, who have prided myself on my discernment! I, who have valued myself on my abilities! I who have often disdained the generous candour of my sister, and gratified my vanity in useless or blameable mistrust! How humiliating is this discovery! Yet, how just a humiliation! Had I been in love, I could not have been more wretchedly blind! But vanity, not love, has been my folly. Pleased with the preference of one, and offended by the neglect of the other, on the very beginning of our acquaintance, I have courted prepossession and ignorance, and driven reason away, where either were concerned. Till this moment I never knew myself." In this moment, Elizabeth realizes how much her pride and prejudice have affected her judgement, even though she has criticized Darcy for the same narrow-mindedness. She believed Wickham's story despite the obvious signs of his dishonesty - and she also wanted to believe the worst about Darcy. Once Elizabeth recognizes her faults, she does not wallow in them. Instead, she takes the opportunity to improve her attitude and finally admit her feelings for Darcy. This is what each of us can do if we find the same pride and prejudice within ourselves. We to can recognize our faults and change.

In a talk given by Dieter F. Uchtdorf he said, “The words of the Apostle James apply to us today:
“God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. …
“Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.”

As you read president Uchtdorf's words you can change the word brethren to your name to help apply his counsel personally. And where it says son you can change it to daughter; doing this really helps me to feel that the Lord is speaking to me through his ordained servant.

“Brethren, we must put aside our pride, see beyond our vanity, and in humility ask, “Lord, is it I?”And if the Lord’s answer happens to be “Yes, my son, there are things you must improve, things I can help you to overcome,” I pray that we will accept this answer, humbly acknowledge our sins and shortcomings, and then change our ways. May we from this time forward seek with all our might to walk steadfastly in the Savior’s blessed way—for seeing ourselves clearly is the beginning of wisdom.” This is a beautiful truth that each soul needs to discover during their mortal test! When Elizabeth saw her own weakness and acknowledged it she was able to change and find greater joy! How grateful I am that we can repent when we have done wrong. What a precious gift the atonement is for each of us; because of our Redeemer we can humble ourselves, repent and begin again. I testify that as we turn away from pride and face our Savior Jesus Christ we will see and love as he would. May each of us begin today to see ourselves and others more clearly I pray; for seeing clearly is the beginning of wisdom!

On Being Genuine

I love this wonderful inspired talk given by president Dieter F. Uchtdorf! It ties in beautifully with the lesson Wickham taught the Bennett family. A key lesson from Pride and Prejudice is to be careful what you believe. The Bennett family was shocked and hurt by the reality that Wickham was not what he seemed. He had presented himself as a victim, kind and upstanding, yet he was in reality immoral and corrupt. The shocking reality of his character and what he had done caused the the Bennett family hurt and distress. Wickham was presenting a Potemkin village to everyone and many believed his outward façade.

During our mortal test we will face many circumstances that require us to discern between right and wrong, between good and evil. I pray each of us will seek to look with our spiritual eyes and see truth. I know that as we seek our Heavenly Father's help we will find direction and wisdom. In the book of Moroni we read, "And now, my brethren, seeing that ye know the light by which ye may judge, which light is the light of Christ, see that ye do not judge wrongfully; for with that same judgment which ye judge ye shall also be judged. Wherefore, I beseech of you, brethren, that ye should search diligently in the light of Christ that ye may know good from evil; and if ye will lay hold upon every good thing, and condemn it not, ye certainly will be a child of Christ." I testify that as we follow the inspired words of Mormon we will be lead to see clearly and judge righteously.

I will close this blog with a poem my sweet daughter Miranda wrote, I think it speaks beautifully about being genuine.

The Proof of Who You Are

When everyone talks, and nobody hears,
Meaningful words simply fall on deaf ears.
No one can change, or get better, or improve,
When no one is willing to budge or to move.
Nothing speaks louder than the things that you do,
You can't mistreat someone then say "I love you"
The person you are, and who you become,
Are based on how you speak, how you live, how you love.

By Miranda 11/9/2014